Give up trying and manage your life instead.
STOP TRYING TO ‘FIND TIME’
When we talk about trying to ‘find time’ for something, what we mean is craming even more into our already full and over-busy lives. If we want to make better choices in our lives, about diet and exercise, how we relax and enjoy ourselves or how we spend our money, then we will help ourselves if we stop filling every minute of every day with more ‘stuff to do’.
Relaxed and stress free people are less selfish, less angry, more generous, more considerate and more connected with others. Taking on more and more ‘to do’s', squeezes out other things from our lives, time for: reflection, imagination, inspiration, relaxation, fun, and if we’re not careful even sleep! We might not even notice ourselves loosing these things at first, until we suddenly think one day – when was the last time I played my guitar?, spent time just playing with my children?, or simply daydreamed while watching the clouds?
Most time management books and courses focus on using time more and more efficiently, so you can get more and more done. Why ? Is the purpose of your life just to do as many things as possible ?
Swim against the tide a little – slow down and do less !
Life is complicated and sometimes difficult, but every day is filled with new possibility. We can change our direction and rhythm – our tomorrows needn’t be always dictated by our yesterdays. Many people drift into depression gradually, becoming trapped by routine, stuck-in-their-ruts, and loose touch with all the enjoyable parts of life. The key thing is to realise that you can make things different.
Even the act of mentally deciding to take control and direct your life can be tremendously liberating and empowering. Give yourself permission to change your life and you’ll feel better as a result.
Avoid the temptation to blame chance, events, or others – of course things go wrong and bad stuff happens, but how we choose to react is up to us.
MAKE GOOD CHOICES
Imagine yourself at the end of your life, looking back – what do you think will seem important ? What would you like to have achieved ? What would you like your relationships to have been like ? What kind of person would you like to have been ?
How can you live your life so that you will get to that point ? Having a sense of clear vision for your life will help prevent the feeling of ennui and being adrift in the world.
We’re all different. Take time to consider what the most important things in your life are, and what you want to spend the rest of your time doing. Identify some key goals and objectives to work towards.
IT’S ALL ABOUT THE JOURNEY, NOT THE DESTINATION
But life isn’t that simple – one of the contradictory things about it seems to be, that although it’s important to have goals and objectives to strive towards (no matter how modest), to give life a sense of purpose. Much of the joy and happiness in life comes not from achieving goals, but from the process of working towards them.
Very often we can become so focussed on reaching our objectives, that we forget to appreciate the journey.
And ultimately our whole life is ‘journey’.
Three different videos – for whether you’re feeling in need of inspiration, spirituality or poetry !
The Power of Time Off Shells The Road Not Taken
Stefan Sagmeister Rob Bell Robert Frost